Personal Individual Journey, Unique to who I am...

When decisions are based on fear (=hurt, anger, frustration), it certainly makes for one big fat messy outcome. Even more so when when you respond to these fears re-actively   I usually step back from or remove myself altogether from these situations.  Reactive responses are counter-productive. It's all about ego and blame, coming from a place of very deep hurt, choosing then to hurt others. It's the only way for that person to feel better. Striking out. It's based on a comfort zone. How one copes. It takes a skilled person to respond to an irrational person rationally.  It requires an understanding of  the action, the emotion and the hurt. 

On the flip side, I, personally, am the polar opposite. I take on too much blame, often blame that is not mine (making me an easy target, by the way). I then process it to death.  I always search for my role in any given situation.  What did I do or not do to create this?  What could I have done to change this? Why does this hurt and affect me so much?  This is also a form of ego and blame.  Perhaps sometimes things and situations just are. That is a statement AND a question. I don't know that answer.  Does it really matter how we got here? Or is the importance primarily on moving forward? Can we really move forward without understanding how we got to where we are?   I am always trying to understand the bigger picture. And seek acceptance within.

Trust and honesty (obviously) are at the forefront of my journey at present. There is such a saddness within me. I am working through it, but it is a process. I am doing the best that I can. I have always tried to see the best in others, trying to accept people for who they are and where they are personally. Trusted that all people are good deep down. As I see it at this time, this has not served me well. I do this because I know who I am and where I have come from. We each make decisions based on the knowledge and lessons that we individually and collectively have learned up to this point in time. That's all that we can do, until we make a choice to learn and to grow.  

Up to any given moment in time, what is done is done and in no way can be 'undone.'  We have to decide what our choices are from this moment in time, the here and now. If we choose to learn and grow or if we choose to stay where we are. Choice should be based on achieving the best possible outcome for all involved. 

Life is an extraordinary journey...choose wisely.

Lies for Personal Gain...

Lying for Personal Gain has become the staple of our society.  It has clearly become acceptable and this generation is desensitizing to it. When it comes to a lie, there are no rules and no boundaries.  Well, perhaps one rule; that being that the result must be personal gain.  The magnitude of the lie is irrelevant as is the size of the gain.  A little white lie is still a lie.  Our wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Interestingly enough, to make lying acceptable to ourselves and to friends, family, business partners, clients, etc, anyone we meet up with in our daily existence, we have disguised the lie, giving it different names.  Because, as long as we don’t call it a lie, it’s not a lie. Right? 

First, we present a lie as an illusion.  An illusion is an acceptable form of lying. The bottom line is personal gain, to create this illusion, with no regard for the truth.

An illusion is a distortion of the senses, revealing how the brain normally organizes and interprets sensory stimulation. While illusions distort reality, they are generally shared by most people.  The emphasis on visual illusions occurs because vision often dominates the other senses.  Some illusions are based on general assumptions the brain makes during perception. The term illusion refers to a specific form of sensory distortion; an illusion describes a misinterpretation of a true sensation.

There is yet another word that is an acceptable form of lying that word is marketing. Marketing is a form of illusion. Marketing is so out of control.  

By definition, Marketing is "the activity, set of institutions, and processes for creating, communicating, delivering, and exchanging offerings that have value for customers, clients, partners, and society at large.  It is an integrated process through which companies build strong customer relationships and create value for their customers and for themselves.  Honest, look it up. We are clearly as far away from this as we can possible be.  I do believe that we all know this, and accept it.  We are also confused by it.  We don’t know how to change it, modify it or put boundaries on it. So we let it be.

If you Accept your Belief as the Truth is it then, the Truth?

So, with all of this, I am wondering if it is then the truth or just your own personal reality? We have been inundated with books, seminars, lectures, discussions, tv shows, etc, that tell us that we only have to "believe it" or "think it" to become a truth.  My reality, or moreso common sense says that if we believe a lie to be true, it is still a lie, right?

I have told myself, envisioned, put headphones on as I slept, cut out pictures of the 'real me that I want to be, and even stood on my head, to make myself believe that I am slim and trim and healthy, and also, I admit, adundant! I think positive throughout the day and night.  So I must be, right?

Wrong.  Then, the critics would say, I am doing it wrong.  Of course! Silly me! I am not applying the correct principles.  There are more books and seminars and tv shows for this.  Still I am not.  There must be more books! Oh, and there are, hooray for society!

What the heck is going on?  The person who is slim and trim and of course, abundant, is the person selling the book, or the seminar, and the advertisers who put the show on.  Or rather the image that is created.  There is a show called "Shark Tank" and another called "Dragon's Den."  Consistently, one of the 'judges' comments that 'It's all about the money. I want money and lots of it!'  This is certainly his truth.  I watch Victoria's Secret during my commercial breaks and wonder why I, a mid-forty year old woman, don't look like that, 13-20 year old teen, in my brazier! And why doesn't she have wrinkles? That's a no brainer, but these are billion dollar industries created to create an illusion. Just for you and me! Isn't that wonderful! We are special!   

Which brings me back to my original thought, if you accept something (anything) as the truth, does it then become your truth (even if that truth is a lie)? huh?

Is not the truth relative to perspective?  Which leads me to beleive that the truth is a really lie, meaning that truth and lie are synonyms.

I beleive that we are bring forward into this world expectations and limitations from past experiences.  (Which, I admit, does not make it truth, it mearly makes it my belief).  All of our individual experiences and values that make up our childhood, is what creates our own individual truth.  This is a NEVERENDING saga, a revolving, self-adjusting beleif system.