It's true, life is often difficult. Therein lay yet another lesson. It is more difficult when we take on challenges kicking and screaming. The alternative is to just 'let it be,' to let it go and accept each experience, good or bad, for what it is.
That's the way I see it anyhow. I spent one entire year trying to understand 'judging' others. Now, my background is in counseling and I am an intuitive, so it was a long road to understanding. But I did get there and I have embraced the concept. We all have lessons, we all have a past, we are all here to teach and to learn from one another. This is why it was so important for me to understand fully the meaning of 'the loving acceptance of all to be, in their own place and time, beginning with self.' Mother Theresa said, "It's between you and God. It's not between you and them. It never was."
I find that so many people post this, love the concept and yet cannot seem to apply it. My path is to understand it fully and to mindfully, thoughtfully and consciously choose. It's an awareness and it is liberating. Similar to this is the concept 'that what you think about me is none of my business.' This is also an awareness and perhaps more liberating.
Who am I to judge knowing that I have made mistakes and errors throughout my previous experiences? This, for me, has been a lifelong awareness. What I know of myself, is that I am hardest on me. My husband says that I always look for my blame in any situation. My awareness of this now is that I look for the lesson. What are you here to teach me? What can I learn from this experience? How can I grow spiritually from this experience/person/action?
When we judge others, we judge them according to our values and beliefs. We judge them according to our set of rules. The question comes to me, "Just exactly how do they know what our rules are?" and it is possible that they walked beside us, in our shoes, with the same perspective? I'm going to go out on a limb and say, no~
If we then, look at others through the eyes of openness and awareness, without ego and without judgement, a whole new life opens up to us. "Due to your circumstances, your path, I can accept how you have reached that conclusion, I can accept how you feel that way. I accept that. I may not agree, for I have learned and experienced differently, but I do accept your point of view." Cool.
It is not easy, but as you accept this to be your truth, your awareness, it certainly does become easier.
We often 'dislike' or 'distrust' another do to many reasons. Most importantly, is our awareness of our self. We may see something 'in' that person that reminds us of who we are, or better yet, who we want to be. We may distrust someone due to a past experience, either with them or with someone else that reminds us of them.
It's our job to consciously reflect on the why's as a reflection of who WE are. It's not their job to conform to what we want them to be or understand. If we can open ourselves up to the experience, as a whole, this can open us a whole new connection with one another.
Life may be may not be as difficult as it may seem, but it is work, a conscious awareness of our thoughts, ideas, creativity and reflection. Challenge yourself the opportunity to grow, to experience more, to open your awareness and discover the truth within yourself.
What You
Cannot Change, Move Forward Loving YOU, Wholly and Complete, Knowing
that You Have Everything that You Need!~
Hunter's Moon~ See the Day through the eyes of the Child within~Anticipate & Show Up with a raw excitement~ Aspire to let Joy and Love be the twinkle in your eye, the sparkle in
your step, 
the dazzle in your dance, the radiance in your smile, the
brilliance in your words~~ 
